how to downsize your wedding into a micro wedding

Planning a wedding throughout this past year has been so difficult for many couples. With the future of the pandemic still unknown it’s likely that most couples are having to choose between having a smaller wedding, postponing, or cancelling their wedding all together. I’ll share with you my best tips on how to downsize your wedding and still have an amazing celebration.

intimate micro wedding hosted at The Vintage House in Overland Park Kansas
The Vintage House in Overland Park Kansas
the flower lady green and pink centerpieces
Purple and white roses in a bridal bouquet made by The Flower Lady

As a wedding photographer in Kansas City I had many couples in 2020 struggle with decisions on what to do with their wedding in the middle of a pandemic. Brides would turn to me for advice and we would brainstorm together the best way for them to still have the wedding day they always dreamed of, but still keeping all of their loved ones safe.

bride wears a brooch passed down to her from her grandma
bride unique wedding band sitting in the grooms ring
bride and grooms wedding rings casting a shadow
brides white sneaker shoes she wears for her wedding day
delicate wedding details, the brides dress and accessories
mother of the bride helps button daughters wedding dress from Savvy's bridal in Kansas City
mom and bride finish getting ready before their small wedding ceremony, bride is wearing a dress from Savvy's bridal in Kansas City
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bride facetimes with grandparents before her intimate wedding ceremony
bride, her sister, and flower girl get ready for the micro wedding
father of the groom helps his son put on his green suit jacket
father of the groom helping him get ready before his micro wedding in Kansas City
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groom wearing a green suit jacket and best man wearing a plum suit jacket from The Black Tux
Kansas City groom wearing a dark green emerald green suit and purple tie from The Black Tux
groom wearing a dark green suit from The Black Tux adjusts his purple tie
groom wearing an emerald green suit and a purple tie
groom wears his mixed metal wedding band

My biggest tip for downsizing your wedding is to cut your guest list. I know it can be hard to try to narrow it down but once you start it only gets easier. The simplest way to do it is to choose a deciding point – for example only inviting family, or cut it even more by only inviting immediate family. It stinks having to not invite some friends or people from work but they will all understand. Set up a zoom or facebook live so they can all tune in from the safety of their own home. You can always host a giant party later and invite EVERYONE!

first look between bride and groom at The Vintage House in Kansas City
bride and grooms first look at their intimate wedding after downsizing their guest list
Kansas City bride and groom having their first look at The Vintage House in Overland Park
bride wearing her dress from Savvy's bridal in Kansas City
bride wearing her dress from Savvys bridal in Kansas City and holding purple and white roses from the Flower Lady with the groom wearing an emerald green suit jacket

Once you have a smaller guest list you can switch to a smaller venue. You can even host your wedding at a park or somewhere outside. Another great option for downsized weddings is renting an air b&b. These venue options help you save all the money you’d spend on a big wedding venue.

How to downsize your wedding, tips from a Kansas City wedding photographer
purple and white boho bridal bouquet
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gorgeous modern bride wearing an a-line dress from savvy's bridal holding her purple and white boho bouquet
groom wears an emerald green suit jacket with a purple tie from The Black Tux and has a white rose and purple flower boutonniere
modern bride with a boho twist wears her hair half up half down with a sparkly hair piece comb
how to downsize your wedding due to covid restrictions, tips from a kansas city wedding photographer
couple walking on their wedding day
bride and groom at sunset
how to downsize your wedding into a micro wedding
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bride and groom snuggle up together and have fun with their kansas city wedding photographer
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bride and groom sunset portraits at the vintage house in kansas city

Intimate weddings are always just as special as big weddings. Smaller, micro weddings, give you the chance to actually spend time with all of your guests. It’s a more relaxed day focused only on you and your partner. You’ll be surrounded by the most important people in your lives and there wont be a million moving parts to keep track of.

bride wearing a dress from savvys bridal and her maid of honor in a blue flowy boho dress
bride with her mom on her wedding day
how to downsize your wedding, tips from a kansas city wedding photographer
family photos at the vintage house in overland park kansas
bride and groom with their families at their intimate wedding ceremony
bride and groom greet their officiant at their intimate wedding in kansas city
midwest couple with their wedding officiant after their ceremony in kansas city
flower girl plays with her doll before the wedding ceremony starts
Decor for a downsized wedding at the Vintage house in Overland Park Kansas
intimate micro wedding at the vintage house in overland park kansas
bride walks down the aisle with her mom at her small wedding ceremony
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close family members attend small social distanced wedding ceremony while posting the ceremony on zoom
maid of honor fluffs the brides dress train during the ceremony
wedding ceremony at the vintage house in overland park kansas photographed by a kansas city photographer
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wedding guests during a micro wedding
groom places wedding band on brides finger during intimate wedding ceremony
kansas city couple have a small intimate wedding at the vintage house in overland park kansas
october wedding in kansas city
intimate october wedding during the covid-19 pandemic in kansas city
bride and groom just married at the vintage house in overland park
bride and groom excited they are officially married in kansas city
bride and groom photographed by their kansas city wedding photographer

If you’re faced with the hard decision of needing to have a smaller wedding, postponing your wedding, or cancelling I hope you choose to move forward with your wedding but just make it a little more intimate.

bride and groom at their intimate wedding ceremony in october with all the fall colors
a kansas city elopement in the fall
bride and groom black and white portraits at their micro wedding in kansas city
October weddings in kansas city have beautiful fall colors
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modern bride with a boho bouquet and her groom wearing a dark green suit jacket
how to downsize your wedding in kansas city
bride and grooms parents sign their marriage license
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grooms dad signs the marriage license in kansas city
bride and groom put on aprons before eating their catered Q39 barbecue at their intimate wedding
gluten free wedding cake decorated with hand painted watercolors in green, red, purple, and gold with a gold initial cake topper
bride and groom cut their gluten free cake
bride and groom cutting their gluten free wedding cake
small wedding reception
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a real wedding with just immediate family
mother of the bride dancing at wedding reception
flower girl at wedding reception
bride and groom eat dinner with their maid of honor and best man
traditional bride with half up half down hair and a boho sparkly hairpiece comb
doing dishes after the small wedding ceremony and reception
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I hope these tips helped you decide on how to downsize your wedding, for more information on having a simple wedding check out my blog posts “How to have a simple wedding in Kansas City”, “Kansas City Courthouse Weddings”, and find more gorgeous photos at Loren and Dimitri’s elopement in “How to elope in Kansas City”

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vintage bride wears a faux fur shawl over her wedding dress from savvys bridal
vintage bride wears faux fur shawl while outside at night under twinkle string lights
how to downsize your wedding tips from a kansas city wedding photographer
bride and grooms first dance outside at night
bride wears faux fur shawl during her first dance with her groom outside under string lights
bride and groom have their first dance on the porch under twinkle lights
bride and groom hollywood glam grand exit
bride wearing a faux fur shawl and leaving the wedding reception like a movie star

This blog features Randi + Ryan’s intimate wedding with their families.

Venue: The Vintage House
Florist: Chris Miller : The Flower Lady
Dress: Savvy Bridal
Suit: The Black Tux
Catering: Q39
Cake: Morgana’s Gluten Free Bakery

How they felt on their wedding day:

“So many emotions! So excited and happy, but also relieved that the people that we love were able to safely make it to our wedding.”

How to Downsize Your Wedding