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When couples build their timeline, they often focus on a first look with each other. However, adding a first look with your father can become one of the most emotional parts of your entire wedding day. A first look with your father creates space for connection before the ceremony begins. It slows everything down in the best way.
Your wedding day moves quickly. Hair and makeup wrap up. Dresses zip. Boutonnieres pin on. Suddenly, guests are arriving. Because of that, carving out intentional time with your father allows you to truly experience the moment instead of rushing through it.
Imagine stepping into the light and seeing your dad’s reaction when he sees you in your dress for the first time. These reactions are unscripted and deeply genuine. As a Kansas City wedding photographer, I can tell you these are the photographs families treasure for decades.
If you’re getting married at a stunning venue like The Abbott or planning portraits near the Kauffman Center for the Performing Arts, we can choose a quiet corner that feels private and calm. That intentional setting makes the moment even more meaningful.
Additionally, this moment isn’t limited to one parent. You can plan a reveal with both parents together, or separate moments if you prefer something more intimate. Some couples also include grandparents or siblings.
Ultimately, a first look with your father isn’t about adding another item to your timeline. It’s about preserving a memory that might otherwise feel rushed. And those quiet, tear-filled embraces? They always photograph beautifully.
Frequently Asked Questions
When should we schedule a first look with our father?
Plan it right after getting dressed and before bridal party photographs.
Does this add too much to the timeline?
Not at all. It typically takes 10–15 minutes and fits naturally into the morning flow.
What if one parent is more emotional than the other?
That’s perfectly okay. Every reaction is meaningful and authentic.
If you’re planning your big day, you may be wondering how to add personal touches to your wedding ceremony without overwhelming the moment. The truth is, learning how to add personal touches to your wedding ceremony doesn’t require grand gestures. Instead, it’s about weaving meaningful details into the foundation of your day.
First, consider writing your own vows. Personalized vows create a quiet, emotional pause during the ceremony. They allow you to speak directly to each other rather than reciting traditional wording. As a photographer, these moments often produce the most genuine expressions.
Next, include family traditions or cultural elements. Whether it’s a unity candle, handfasting, or a meaningful prayer, these rituals add depth and connection. If you’re getting married at a timeless venue like The Brim or inside a historic church in Kansas City, incorporating tradition feels especially powerful.
Another beautiful idea is honoring loved ones. Display framed photographs, reserve a special seat, or include a quiet moment of acknowledgment during the ceremony. These subtle touches bring intention without shifting focus.
Music also transforms the atmosphere. Choose songs that reflect your relationship rather than defaulting to popular options. Live musicians, acoustic covers, or even a string quartet can elevate the mood.
Additionally, think about your ceremony backdrop. Florals, draping, or architectural framing influence how your ceremony photographs look. However, the most powerful detail is often your connection.
Finally, consider a private first touch or prayer before walking down the aisle. This moment creates calm before the celebration begins. It also allows you to center yourselves before guests arrive.
Ultimately, when deciding how to add personal touches to your wedding ceremony, focus on meaning over trend. The details that reflect your story will always feel timeless.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are simple ways to personalize a wedding ceremony?
Writing your own vows, choosing meaningful music, and incorporating family traditions are simple yet impactful.
Do personalized ceremonies photograph better?
Yes. Emotional, authentic moments create natural expressions and storytelling-rich photographs.
Should we follow tradition or create our own format?
You can absolutely blend both. Many couples combine tradition with modern personalization.
When it comes to planning your timeline, don’t overlook the must-have detail photographs for your wedding day. These must-have detail shots for your wedding day tell the full story long after the cake is gone and the flowers have faded. While portraits and ceremony moments matter, your details preserve the intentional choices you made.
First, your invitation suite deserves attention. Custom stationery sets the tone for your celebration. I always recommend bringing a full set, including envelopes and wax seals, for styled photographs.
Second, your rings are non-negotiable. Close-ups of your engagement ring and wedding bands highlight craftsmanship and symbolism.
Third, your dress and veil need their own moment. Whether you hang them in a window or style them against architecture, they photograph beautifully with natural light.
Next, don’t forget your shoes and accessories. Earrings, perfume, vow books, and heirloom pieces add depth and personality to your gallery.
Florals are another essential detail. Bouquet close-ups and boutonniere shots showcase texture and color that tie your entire design together.
Your ceremony space also matters. Photographing the aisle, altar, and seating setup captures the special moments before the celebration begins.
Reception details are equally important. Centerpieces, place settings, menus, and signage tell the design story of your evening.
Additionally, your cake deserves its own spotlight. Whether it’s classic white or bold and modern, it reflects your style.
Signature drinks and bar details are increasingly popular. Custom cocktail signage or monogrammed napkins add personality and photograph beautifully.
Finally, capture meaningful heirlooms. A grandmother’s bracelet or handwritten note adds emotional weight to your story.
Ultimately, these must-have detail shots for your wedding day ensure your gallery feels complete. Years from now, you’ll remember not just how the day looked, but how thoughtfully it came together.
Frequently Asked Questions
How much time should we allow for detail photographs?
Plan for at least 30–45 minutes at the start of your photography coverage to allow intentional styling.
What should I have ready for detail photographs?
Gather your invitation suite, rings, shoes, jewelry, vow books, perfume, and any heirlooms in one box.
Do detail photographs really matter?
Yes. They preserve the design elements and meaningful choices that make your wedding unique.
Every bride deserves to be celebrated in way that is unique to them. Here are my tips for 5 ways to level up your bridal brunch.
Choose a Theme or Color Pallette
This is the first step since everything else like food, florals, and decor are based off of that! Ultimately the goal here is to find something that mimics the bride’s taste, since her opinion matters the most!
Some common bridal shower themes:
- Love is sweet
- Backyard BBQ
- Disney
- PJ party
- Tea party
- Beachy/Nautical theme
- The final fiesta
If you don’t have a theme in mind, pick a fun color palette and go from there! Not every bridal shower needs a theme, but a central idea/color is a great way to level up your bridal brunch.
For this bridal brunch styled shoot, we stuck with bright, vibrant colors like dark green, varying shades of pink, and gold. This created a super feminine and bold vibe for the decor!
What to wear?
Along with the colors and theme, decide what the dress code of the bridal shower will be! As the host/planner of the bridal shower, you set the tone here. Most likely, your guests will be wondering what to wear!
Will everyone dress up? Is this a casual yet cute event? Should guests all wear a certain color? If it’s going to be outside, make sure everyone knows so they can plan for the weather.
Bottom line: only the bride wears white!
Unique Snacks
Every party needs some snacks! To make it memorable for the bride, find something personalized and unique. You can never go wrong with cookies & cupcakes, especially when they’re from Kat’s Confections.
For Kansas City bridal showers, look into Go Go Candy Co! This is Kansas City’s one and only candy truck. This made our styled shoot sooo unique, fun, and YUMMY.
Cute Bridal Shower Decor
Decorating your bridal shower venue ensures that it’s photo-ready and super personalized for the bride! Being intentional with the glassware, signage, florals, and other decor really helps set a fun vibe and draw attention to the theme or color palette.
Centerpieces are an easy and gorgeous way to level up the area. These flowers are from The Little Clover and I’m obsesseddd with how they turned out.
While you’re planning the bridal shower decor, keep the bride’s chair in mind. This is where she’ll sit to open gifts. Decorate it BIG like with a balloon arch to really make her feel like a queen! This is more than a chair, it’s a throne.
Balloon arch courtesy of Dolli’s Design’s
Bridal Shower Games
During the bridal brunch, your guests will be mingling and eating and chatting with the bride about her upcoming wedding. It’s always fun to gather people with a bridal-themed game!
Keep these short and completely personalized to your guest of honor. The questions can be about the bride, her relationship with her partner, or about the partner! It’s always fun for everyone to learn more about them.
Playing bridal shower games is the perfect way to break the ice, get everyone laughing, and make the bride feel special.
Kansas City Wedding Vendor Credit
Allllll the credit to these amazing Kansas City wedding vendors for their help at this styled shoot!
Venue: The Firehouse
Planner: Cake & Champagne Event Planning
Photographer: Natalie Nichole Photography (hey, that’s me!)
Videography: Isbell Creative
Rentals: Supply Event Rentals
Balloon Decor: Dolli’s Design’s
Florals: The Little Clover
Candy Truck: Go Go Candy Co
Cookies + Cupcakes: Kat’s Confections
Hair + Makeup: Lumiere Aesthetics Center
Inspo: Planning the Perfect Bridal Shower
This year I asked my past brides to share their advice for future brides. All of the lovely ladies planning their weddings can take tips from brides that recently planned their own weddings. They all learned what is most important when it comes to wedding planning and making sure you enjoy your day of. Whether you’re planning a big wedding or an elopement these words of wisdom will be useful for you.
Advice from Hannah
“I think my day went so perfectly because I didn’t freak out about small things. I didn’t even freak out about big things. I kept thinking, at the end of the day I will be married to my best friend, and whatever happens today is what was meant to be! I think having an easy going attitude during the whole thing helped a lot.”
Loren’s advice on eloping
“Do what you want and do not plan too much! You should have a simple idea and schedule of the day, but planning it to the T takes away the fun of it! What worked for us was the simplicity of it all. We stayed at our hotel to prepare, the hotel was extremely close to the elopement location, we allowed the scenery and skyline to be our decorations, trusted in our pastor for the vows and ceremony, and focused on us. This was a decision that we would absolutely choose again and would recommend others to do as well!”
McKenna’s Suggestion
“It [the wedding day] really does go by so quickly and it’s over and done before you know it. Hire a day-of coordinator so you can leave all the details and worries to them and really soak in every moment of the day!”
Ann Marie’s tip
“There are so many things to figure out, but if you can find the right vendors, who you feel you work well with and whose vision meshes with yours, it is a game changer. Don’t be afraid to ask vendors for advice on other aspects of your big day. Keep in mind they have typically done this many times and have likely seen things go right or not so right. A little professional advice never hurts.”
Destiney’s Adivce
“Don’t stress it will all work out in the end. Just go with the flow and expect little bumps in the road.”
Amanda’s tips if you have to change your wedding plans
“If anything, wedding planning during a pandemic taught me to be much more go with the flow and embrace everything with a sense of humor. It allowed me to just say “whatever happens, happens.” I know it sounds cliche but what they say is true. Once you are up there with the love of your life, nothing else matters. Don’t sweat the small stuff, and just lean on each other, your families, and if you luck out like us, your amazing vendors. Take in every single moment standing up there. This is it, it’s here, you made it.”
These brides wanted to share their advice to soon-to-be brides to inspire them and give them the opportunity to learn from their experiences. Overall they all express the importance of not stressing over things you can’t control. Let whatever happens, happen. Just focus on enjoying your day to the fullest.
For more wedding inspo check out other wedding day blog posts.
You can choose any music genre for your first dance song. It doesn’t matter if it’s an old school classic, a new pop song, some homegrown country, or a little alternative. What matters most is that you feel a special connection to the song. If you close your eyes while the song is playing you immediately see your partner. The rhythm should bind your hearts together, the lyrics should remind you of each other.
Here are my top picks of perfect songs from every genre for your first dance
Classic
- Can’t Help Falling In Love With You – Elvis Presley (sooooo many good remakes of this song as well!)
- This Will Be [An Everlasting Love] – Natalie Cole
- At Last – Etta James
- My Girl – The Temptations
- This Magic Moment – The Drifters
Pop
- Perfect – Ed Sheeran
- All of Me – John Legend
- How Long Will I Love You – Ellie Goulding
- Give Me All Your Love – Brighton
- I Am Yours – Andy Grammer
Country
- Holding On to You – Miranda Lambert
- You Had Me at Hello – A Day To Remember
- Amazed – Lonestar
- My Best Friend – Tim McGraw
- I Want to Dance with You – George Strait
Indie/Alternative
- Love You For A Long Time – Maggie Roger
- Nothing Matters When We Dance – The Magnetic Fields
- All My Love – George Ezra
- I’m With You – Vance Joy
- Someone To You – BANNERS
Honorable Mentions
- Aquaman – Walk The Moon
- Overwhelmed – Tim McMorris
- Dreams – The Cranberries
- Yours to Keep – Jordan Mackampa
- Incredible – James TW
- Hooked On A Feeling – Blue Swede
For my fellow How I Met Your Mother fans: I’m Gonna Be (500 miles) – The Proclaimers
check out my full playlist of first dance songs here I’ll be adding to it constantly so go ahead and “follow” if you’d like.
Before you pick your first dance, make sure your wedding day timeline is set- here’s how to plan the perfect wedding day timeline
If a big wedding ceremony isn’t your thing, you might consider having a smaller ceremony or an intimate elopement. Here is how to have a simple wedding in Kansas City.
The key to making your marriage legal – Your Marriage License
In the state of Kansas (Johnson County)
You’ll have to go to the County Clerk’s office twice. Remember your IDs
Clerk of the District Court:
100 N Kansas Ave
Olathe, KS 66061
Hours: Monday- Friday 8am-5pm
-Apply for your marriage license
The application portion is a sworn affidavit. You’ll give basic info about both of you; name, age, city you live in. Then you’ll go under oath that you’re not related to each other, neither of you are currently already married, and that you don’t know of any other reason you shouldn’t get married.
-Wait three days
The state of Kansas requires applicants to wait three days for their marriage license to be processed.
-Return to pick up your license
Hot Tip: Technically only one of you needs to go to the Clerk’s office to apply, but going to get your marriage license together is a memorable moment I recommend you share together.
In the state of Missouri (Jackson County)
You can go to the Jackson County Courthouse, Historic Truman Courthouse, or you can apply online. If you go in person be sure to remember your IDs.
Jackson County Courthouse- Recorder of Deeds Department
415 East 12th Street
Room 104
Kansas City, Missouri 64106
Historic Truman Courthouse
112 W Lexington
Suite 30
Independence, Missouri 64050
–apply for your marriage license
You’ll give basic info about both of you; name, age, city you live in.
-Pick up your marriage license
If you apply in person you can get it right then but if you apply online you’ll need to both go to pick it up.
The Fun Part -Your Ceremony
Both Johnson County and Jackson County will happily give you a list of judges that can perform your ceremony, you will need to reach out them and decide on a location. Your officiant can also be a religious official; a minister, a priest, a rabbi, etc. Nowadays you can have a friend or relative become a temporary officiant or become ordained which can add a personal touch to your ceremony.
Location Ideas:
Possibly in the court house (they don’t seem to be offering this very much)
Your backyard
A local park (check with each park about their fees and required permits)
Kansas (Johnson County)
Your ceremony will have to take place within 6 months after you receive your marriage license. All you will need for a ceremony is someone to officiant and two witnesses. Your officiant must turn in the license within 10 days of the ceremony.
Missouri (Jackson County)
Your ceremony will have to take place within 30 days. You’ll need an officiant and two witnesses. Your officiant must turn in the license to the Jackson County Recorder of Deeds Department within 15 days of the ceremony.
Hot Tip: Your wedding ceremony must take place in the State that you got your marriage license.
How much will it cost to have a simple wedding in Kansas City?
-License
Kansas $85.50 (additional $4.95 if you pay with a card)
Missouri $50.00
-officiant most likely between $100-200 (maybe free if your friend or relative is offering!)
-Venue will depend on where you choose! There are plenty of free options
How much will it cost to have a photographer at our simple wedding?
*quotes for Natalie Nichole Photography for a simple ceremony within 20 miles of Kansas City*
Week Day ceremonies = $500
-an hour of coverage
-sneak peek photos the same day
-50+ final images delivered 3-5 weeks after your wedding
Weekend ceremonies (Nov-Feb) =$700
-two hours of coverage
-sneak peek photos the same day
-50+ final images delivered 3-5 weeks after your wedding
Additional hours can be added to packages
Love KC? Have a simple wedding in Kansas City on a rooftop. The skyline makes for the perfect backdrop.
There are many benefits of a first look on your wedding day. If you’re planning your wedding, having a first look is definitely something to consider. But really, what are the benefits of a first look?!
More Time with Your Fiancé
One benefit of a first look is of course -more time with your fiancé. If you are having an evening ceremony but not a first look, you won’t be able to see your partner for the entire day before you walk down the aisle. This isn’t just a regular day…. this is your wedding day. This day is one of the most important days of your relationship. Let’s fill your entire day with love instead of just a couple of hours.
Cure any butterflies
Wedding days are notorious for being a little chaotic. Wether you’re feeling nervous, excited, or overwhelmed there are a lot of emotions happening at once, but the best way to calm any butterflies is to look into your partner’s eyes. The minute you see the love of your life on your wedding day, your jitters float away. It’s a minute of calmness before the natural chaos of the day. Sometimes the first look is one of the only moments you’ll have alone throughout the entire day. A quiet moment all to yourselves to just be together.
Flexibility in Your Timeline
First looks give you the opportunity to slow the day down a little, you don’t have to rush everything in the short little window of time between the end of the ceremony and the beginning of the reception. First looks early on in the day allow most of your photos to be taken before the ceremony even starts. Then after the ceremony you’ll only need time for a few more family photos and a couple portraits of the two of you as the newly married couple but then it’s time for the reception! You’ll actually get to go to your cocktail hour and enjoy it. You’ll be excited to welcome guests and celebrate with everyone because you’ve been able to relax throughout the entire day and have had your love by your side.
Overall first looks benefit the day by taking a way some of the stress. They save a little time in the timeline because you can get so much done early on in the day without having to stay hidden from each other. They also give you an intimate moment alone to be yourselves without the feeling of being in front of a crowd.
regardless of if you choose to have a first look or not your wedding day is going to take your breath away. You’ll marry the love of your life and celebrate with allllllll of your friends and family that support you.
learn how to plan the perfect wedding day timeline (with or without a first look) here
